Belinda is one of our favourite mom bloggers, she shares her journey of being a mama to five year old Rachel and Ben (who is two and a bit) on Making Mountains. Belinda also runs a digital content and copywriting agency with her business partner Catherine Black, called Black Mountain. Here’s an insight into how Belinda juggles it all:
What’s your work schedule?
I drop both kids off at school and then get to the office at around 8:30. I then work until just after 12 when I go pick up Rachel and head home for lunch. Ben goes to a playgroup near home and either my husband or our nanny Norma picks him up at around 11:30. I then head back to the office between 1 and 2 and work until around 3:30pm before heading home again.
How do you handle childcare?
Norma, our nanny, has been with us since Rachel was born and I couldn’t manage being a working mom without her. I’m also lucky in that my husband works for himself, so his time is flexible and he’s able to pitch in with childcare too. We don’t have any immediate family living in Joburg so things can get difficult, especially in emergencies like when one of us is sick.
When do you typically hang out with your babes?
Lunchtime is a special time because we chat and eat together and I find out about their days. I also love taking the odd afternoon off work to spend time together and of course evenings are family time, as are weekends.
Do you have any family rituals?
We love having a good old family bubble bath!
What do you enjoy most about your current set up?
I feel very priviledged that I’m able to build a career doing something I love (writing) and still have the flexibility to spend time with my family.
What’s the biggest challenge about your current set up?
Owning your own business means you never stop working! So while I may get home at 3:30pm, there may still be clients calling me at 5pm or asking for a piece of work and I’m obliged to take that call and do that work.
What about time for yourself? Do you take timeouts? What do you get up to and how often?
This is so difficult but I’ve begun to realise that neglecting yourself does no one any favours! Saying that, I’ve started scheduling regular exercise – I do barre classes which I love, as well as going to the gym (if I don’t exercise I get grumpy)! I’m also learning that booking a massage or a facial for myself is completely okay (I used to think it was indulgent). I’ve just recently completed a Mindfulness course that is helping me learn to relax and teaching me to be kind to myself too.
Let’s talk about dinner – who handles dinner in your home?
Mostly me! I’m a decent cook and I love food, so dinner is normally my responsbility. However, it can get very tiring, planning all the meals and going to the shops, so my husband and I have agreed that Monday night is his turn to cook dinner – and that’s working well so far.
Top tip for the work/motherhood balance?
I would say “don’t sweat the small stuff” and “try and let go of perfection”. Your kids don’t need nutritionally perfect, Pinterest looking sandwiches for their school snack or handmade costumes for the school play. Take shortcuts where you can so you can focus on spending time with them, because in the end, that’s what they’ll remember.
We are so enjoying our work/mama balance series and hope you are too. Missed our first mama balance? Click here to read how Angie of Lucky Pony (and a whole lot of other things) balances it all.