As I head off to a meeting this morning I can’t help but wonder how all the working mamas do it! Here we asked some of our favourite South African mom-trepeneurs their top tips for work/motherhood balance.
Anna from Umati
“It’s difficult for most mothers to juggle both – at some stage we have the mommy guilt creeping in. I think if you do either, work or being a mommy, don’t do it half-heartedly. You’ll end up feeling even more guilty and disappointed. Do both with enthusiasm, you will feel content that you’ve done your best when you’re spending time at work or with your littlies.”
Find the balance that works best for you! We are all different and don’t let anyone make you feel guilty for the way you juggle being a working mama. It’s a tough job!
Rebecca from Fancypants
Spend time at the end of each day/week planning the next (whether it is for work, kids, holidays – whatever it is). It just helps to free your mind so that you don’t wake up in the night with lists and worries running through your head. I also find a nice glass or two of red wine when the kids are tucked up in bed helps a lot.
Chereen from For the Beauty of It
Working with a life coach really helped me to establish what my priorities are and to put boundaries into place, especially in terms of my work. Me-time is also really important to me – that saying about not being able to pour from an empty cup really resonates with me! And one last thing: stop comparing yourself to others! This has been my biggest downfall in the past; constantly looking to other moms for inspiration, but finding that all it did was make me feel even worse about myself. You never know what’s really going on in someone else’s life, so quit trying to be what you’re not and just do you.
Kalika of Amavi
Quality time over quantity time, both in work and with my kiddos. Also, I made a decision that I wanted to show my girls that mommy also has interests other than just being their mom. Yes, that is my number 1 job and the most important one, but I want them to see me achieving certain of my own dreams/goals. I’m still an individual even though I’m part of a loving household. Healthy family makes everything else possible.
Leila of Pass the Salt
Try and take a ten minute breather with a cup of tea, coffee, juice, water, whatever. Before you start the tidying up, the washing up, the ironing, whatever it is. Ten minutes is all it takes to regain your thoughts and ensure that things continue to run smoothly.
Lynette from Nicky Arthur PR
Do the best you can, plan ahead as much as possible and enjoy your children – set a good example about work and work ethic, but always let them know that they come first.