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June 2016

BABE, EAT, MAMA

GUEST POST: BABY BISCUITS WITH HIDDEN PROTEIN

30th June 2016
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We are so excited to start a new guest post series on Kimmy & Bear today. Dani aka Baby Jakes Mom will be guest posting right here every Thursday for the next 5 weeks. What can you expect? The most delicious recipes from Baby Jakes Mom. 

If you want to feel like the greatest mom on earth, bake some biscuits. While the cookie-dough scent wafts through your kitchen (quite plausibly the happiest smell on earth), let your little one stir the batter and then eat them fresh out the oven. The only thing that could make this Brady-Bunch-Martha-Stewart-Desperate-Housewives scenario any more peachy is the knowledge that your little tot is in fact scoffing down a super-snack loaded with protein and healthy fats. Refined-sugar free. Now how’s that for real mommy kudos. Plus they take all of 10 mins to make.

I’m loving these biscuits for so many reasons. They are bland enough in taste for little babies (from around 7 / 8 months) who are ready to chew on something like a teething biscuit. Great for the moms who follow BLW. Ideal for babies who are keen to feed themselves. A perfect finger food / on the go snack. And 10 out of 10 for older toddlers who can no longer be fooled into eating anything other than something that looks and tastes like a real biscuit. And that’s exactly what these are – they look and taste like the real thing!

The secret: I used Chickpea flour instead of regular flour. Get it at Woolies for R25,95. Dischem also stocks the Nature’s Choice range.

Why? Because Chickpeas are a great source of protein and fiber. Yippee. A biscuit that is actually protein based!

INGREDIENTS:

Makes approx. 18 cookies

  • 1 cup chickpea flour (get it at Dischem or Woolies)
  • 1/4 cup “other” flour (almond flour / ground oats / coconut flour / desiccated coconut. I used ground oats by grinding raw oats in a Nutribullet)
  • 1/2 cup nut butter (I used peanut. Could also use almond)
  • 2 TBS ground flax seeds (my favourite ingredient to sneak in Omegas)
  • 1/4 cup melted coconut oil
  • 1/4 to a 1/3 cup of “sweetener”. You can use pure maple syrup / honey / coconut sugar. Only use honey if baby older than one. You could also use a mashed banana instead. Just need something to make it a bit sweet.
  • 1 egg, beaten
  • 1 tsp baking soda / bicarb
  • 2 tsp pure vanilla essence or vanilla powder
  • 1-2 TBS water if needed

METHOD:

  1. Measure out 1 cup of Chickpea Flour and pop it in the freezer while you prepare the rest of the batter. Chilling the chickpea flour helps create the right consistency and texture for baking.
  2. Preheat oven to 350 degrees F or 175 degrees celsius.
  3. Combine the wet ingredients: the nut butter / the egg / the melted coconut oil / vanilla essence / syrup / honey / mashed banana (whatever you are using for sweetness). Also add the bicarb.
  4. Stir to combine. You could use an electric beater but not necessary at all. Less fuss. Less mess.
  5. Now add the dry ingredients (the chickpea flour from the freezer / other flour / flaxseeds). And mix.
  6. You can use your hands to combine it all into a nice dough. Will be quite dense. You can add some of the water if needed to combine into cookie dough texture.
  7. Take a small ball of batter and roll, and then flatten on a baking tray lined with baking paper. Press down with your 3 middle fingers to flatten slightly.
  8. Bake for approx. 12 minutes until golden.
  9. Once out the oven, immediately press down (gently) on the centre of each biscuit with a fork. This gets rid of air pockets and creates that yummy chewy centre that all good biscuits need.
  10. Transfer to a wire rack to cool. Eat while warm. Yummy.
  11. Store in an airtight container.

Tip: Do not taste the batter. It tastes legitimately repulsive. Tragically, it doesn’t taste like true cookie dough when raw. Only once cooked will the chickpea flour become nutty and yummy.

They are not super sweet – so for older kids you may need to increase the syrup / honey quantities. And you could also add raisins. But the taste as is went down just fine with #babyjake.

And finally, in terms of the texture, these are more on the chewy side than the crunchy side. Think more cookie than hard biscuit. Again, #babyjake was happy with it.

Happy Baking!

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A SUGROGATE MAMA’S STORY

29th June 2016
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Laney with baby Ani immediately after birth

Get ready to shed a tear, Laney Sweet, doula and mama to two girls Natalie and Emery as well as surrogate mama to baby Ani. When Laney was 6 months pregnant with Ginger and Sanjit’s baby girl Laney lost her husband in a tragic shooting. Here Laney chats to us about her journey as a surrogate mama and carrying on when the unthinkable happened.

How did you decide to be Ginger’s surrogate?

I learned about surrogacy back when I was in high school and I always had an open heart to it. My dream was to always be a mother– and knowing that other women had those same desires but couldn’t fulfill those desires crushed me. After I had my own two daughters I knew that there were families out there that deserved the gift of a completed family. I was healthy, had easy pregnancies and births and wanted to start the process. I researched agencies and created a profile. The agency sent me 8 profiles back, I felt that I matched best with two of them. One family was in the US and the other was in another country. They set my profile to the couple in the US and they immediately responded. We set up a phone call to “meet” each other and get to know each other. It was an instant match! They were without a doubt the perfect couple.

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Laney (left) with new parents Sanjit and Ginger and baby Ani

When did you bring it up with your husband?

We talked over the years about it off and on but I wasn’t in a place in my life where I could commit to starting a journey. He initially didn’t understand why I, his wife, had to be the one to do it. It wasn’t that he didn’t want those families to have a baby, he just couldn’t wrap his head around me carrying another man’s baby. A lot changed after we had our second daughter’s homebirth. He caught his baby girl as she came earthside in the comfort of a warm pool in our bedroom. After my experience, I became a doula and started supporting 4-6 women a month as they welcomed their children into the world. He saw my passion for helping families grow over the years and eventually realized surrogacy was just another “birth thing” I knew I *had* to do. He had become the biggest support system for my journey. He went to my appointments with me and flew across the country to be there for the medical screening (which he had to do, too). He grew to love the family as much as I did and we all became really great friends.

We cannot imagine the pain you felt loosing your husband, what gave you the strength to carry on?

The morning of January 19th was undoubtedly one of the hardest days of my life. Never in my wildest dreams did I ever think my husband would be murdered by a police officer. I think that had his death been in some other way, I wouldn’t be able to carry on. The senselessness and injustice surrounding his death has ignited a fire within me to demand change. I’m currently battling a corrupt police department and making sure the (former) officer is convicted of the second degree murder charge. I was six months pregnant with their baby at the time he was killed. My intended parents, friends and family and the birth community in DFW rallied around my family and went above and beyond to support us through our loss. Ultimately, not being strong wasn’t an option. I was 6 months pregnant with another couple’s baby and I had two young daughters that needed me to be there for them during their loss, too. I will begin my healing only when I see that those responsible for his death are held accountable.

We know you are a doula – how do you think being a doula played a role in your experience?

Being a doula played a very influential role in my surrogacy journey. Natural birth is the surrogacy community isn’t common so I started as the black sheep of the family amongst other surrogates. I created a group called ‘Surrogates Birthing Naturally’ and it’s so refreshing to surround yourself with other women who know and trust birth, too. It was very important to me to find a match that would not only support but embrace an out of hospital birth– but most of all, I wanted them to want that for their daughter. Ginger fell in love with our birth center and midwifery team. We agreed it was a very peaceful and safe atmosphere to bring their daughter into the world in. My role of a birth and bereavement doula, who has witnessed many different births, gave me insight into how to also empathize with my intended parents through the process. We miscarried their first daughter at nearly 10 weeks in May of 2015. We all mourned her loss together. We took the summer off to regroup and transferred another little girl in August which was successful.

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Laney breastfeeding Ani

How did you feel during the pregnancy? Especially emotionally? And how did these feelings differ to how you felt when you were pregnant with your girls?

Ani’s pregnancy was by far my hardest. Like I mentioned previously, I had been almost 10 weeks along when we lost her sister. My body and heart had the summer to heal and then we started up the process to do our second IVF transfer. I’m a pretty natural minded person so my body wasn’t used to all the medications that I had to take. The injections (I did over 150 of them!) in your side build up daily and become very sore. My nausea was so bad at first that I thought I had Hyperemesis Gravidarum. Once that subsided, the pregnancy became pretty uneventful and normal. Everything about my journey is referenced to me in “before” and “after” terms. Daniel’s death changed everything. Before his death, I’d say emotionally I had a pretty good understanding of my role as a surrogate and felt very confident in the decision to do this for their family. Afterwards, it was very hard. I had a baby that I had to be healthy for in the midst of mourning his loss. I started going into preterm labor right after he died due to shock and stress. I wasn’t even contractually allowed to enter the state of Arizona to go see his body and pick up his remains because AZ doesn’t recognize surrogacy laws. Ginger and her husband suffered so much during this time, too. They were so worried about what effects the stress would have on her, if she was growing on track, eat. As much as I loved carrying for them, at that point I just wanted to send her home so they could have their daughter and I could mourn.

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New parents and their babe

Did you bond with the baby when you were carrying her?

I nurtured her the same as I did for my girls. Her health was always a priority. I talked to her and told her about her parents that she would soon meet. After his death, I had become numb for the first few weeks in shock. Once that started to wear off I had become so wrapped up in seeking justice for Daniel’s death that it really pulled me away mentally from the journey. To prepare for her birth, I had to get back in the headspace of a pregnant woman and surrogate. I took the last few weeks of the pregnancy off from being consumed by my husband’s case and focused on the pending labor. I spent time with her parents who came into town early and we went to the birth center appointment together. I had to remind myself that Ani knew exactly what to do and that she was strong. She had stuck with me through the hardest thing that had ever happened to me and I knew we’d always have a very unique and special bond because of it.

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A family affair – Laney pregnant with Ani and her parents feeling the kicks

I know you had a inclusive water birth with both Anri’s parents present – how did this effect the birth for you?

I always wanted them to be there for their daughter’s birth because it’s such a life changing moment for a couple. It was also a way to make it feel more “real” to them, since they weren’t actually the ones laboring together and delivering her. Being a doula, I know that early labor is best for the laboring woman to rest. I had let Ginger’s husband know that I had started having some contractions one night. I was hoping that he wouldn’t wake Ginger up because nothing was imminent and I knew they needed sleep. But, like the typical adorable first time parents they were eagerly excited that something, anything was finally happening. They wanted to come to my side right away but I was afraid that’d stall labor. I met them the next morning in town for us to have breakfast together so they would be near their baby girl. We met back up later that day at the hotel they had got near the birth center. I labored there and finally decided I felt more comfortable leaving to the birth center. Once my team got there, contractions slowed down. My midwife felt it was best to send everyone back home and let me sleep. My concern was that Ginger and her husband would feel alienated but in reality, we just weren’t going to make progress if I didn’t get some rest. She later told me that she went back to the hotel and cried. My heart hurt for them, I know they just wanted to be involved as much as possible but we hadn’t gotten to that part of labor yet. The contractions picked back up once I got a few hours of sleep and we called everyone back the following morning. It was challenging in a lot of ways. A laboring woman does best when she can check out mentally and just be… but here I was, laboring for the first time without my husband, worrying about how my intended parents were doing and also what my birth team was thinking because I was also not able to step out of the mentality of being a doula. Finally things were kicking into gear! She felt my belly through contractions and when I got in the pool she got ready to get in after catching her. Ginger and I caught Ani together and then she hopped in the pool and snuggled her baby. I can’t describe the relief and joy that moment finally brought us. I’d do this a thousand more times for THAT moment.

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Laney in labour

We know you stayed in a hotel with Anri and her parents, feeding on demand for the first week. This is unusual for a surrogate. How did you and Ginger decide on this arrangement?

From the beginning, we had planned to stay together as one big family. We had become like family after everything we went through. We had all stayed together during the IVF transfer in California at a hotel for a weekend and really enjoyed that time together. We all felt it was really important to watch the fruits of our efforts unfold. Seeing Ginger and her husband with their daughter was beautiful. Our birth center does a 24-48 hour newborn exam so we initially planned to stay near the birth center together until that was done. Afterwards, we all planned to go back to my house and finish our visit. When Daniel died, Ginger told me that we would stay together for two weeks. She didn’t want me to be left alone postpartum without any help. I felt like two weeks, as much as I would have loved to spend it with them, wasn’t fair to them. I wanted them to get back home with the daughter they longed to meet for so long and finally just be together as a family. I nursed Ani on demand for 6 days. It was my favorite part of the entire journey! There’s something really healing about snuggling a fresh newborn and it was the happiest I had been since Daniel passed away. Ani was able to get a healthy start and it was the prefect way for our journey to come to an end. At 6 days postpartum we all went to the airport. I hugged them goodbye as they boarded their plane home and then I caught my flight to Phoenix an hour later to attend court for my husband’s case the next day. I was pumping and shipping milk to her for until last week. Ginger is saving the last bag of my frozen milk so I can feed it to her when I see them next.

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Saying goodbye at the airport

What were the hardest parts of being a surrogate?

My journey was obviously very different than it should have been, so lots of things factored into it. I think the most important part of being a surrogate is understanding and empathizing where the family is coming from. For instance, you have to understand that all these families know about is loss, heartbreak and let down. They weren’t able to conceive on their own and they are having to open up their hearts to allow someone else to step into that role. Opening up your own heart, empathizing and really understanding where they are coming from is important to maintain a good relationship. The hardest part, or most heartbreaking part, is knowing that this family has made sacrifice time and time again to simply become parents– something that most healthy women take for granted. No family should have to spend $150,000 on IVF and all the fees associated to complete their family. Losing the first pregnancy and knowing we were all back at square one was also devastating. In our blog, I compared the loss to having to tell your best friend whose child you agreed to babysit, that while you were watching her in your care, she passed away. Can you imagine the guilt you’d feel for failing to protect life for someone who entrusted you to protect the thing they love most?

How did you explain the situation to your daughters, Natalie and Emery?

In short and simplified terms, “Mommy is going to help her friend carry a baby. Mommy’s friend has a broken tummy– and since mommy’s tummy isn’t broken we are going to do a nice thing and help them have a baby of their own!” The girls always had a good understanding of exactly what I was doing. They knew she wasn’t ours and she’d never stay with us. They grew to love Ginger, her husband and their entire family. My oldest daughter was swooning over Ani pretty hard after she was born. She’s got a very nurturing personality like her mama! (Finger’s crossed she’ll grow up to be a doula!) Natalie cuddled her a lot. She’s all of our healing little therapy baby, i’m tellin’ ya. 😉 My youngest, Emery, says, “Ginger’s baby is SO cute!” They were there for the birth and very much involved. They provided a lot of comfort to me in labor by rubbing my belly during contractions and giving me hugs and kisses.

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Laney with her daughters Emery and Natalie and baby Ani

How has your relationship with Ginger changed from he start of this experience to now?

Reading this questions brings tears to my eyes. We went through so much together: The first miscarriage. Daniel passing. Ginger lost her grandmother. Her husband lost his dad. She became one of my best friends and someone I could talk to openly and honestly about everything. I am so thankful that we came into each others lives. We will always have a relationship and be there for each other, to celebrate in the joyous times and to hold each other up in times of grief. What do you think looking back on the experience now? -Overall, I feel very fortunate for my experience. Most surrogates do not have the relationship that I did with my intended parents. I couldn’t imagine doing another journey any other way. I do not regret for one second ever deciding to do it. It’s something I am quite proud of. A family is now complete and through that, it brought our two families together. I love them all dearly. Ani was truly the rainbow after the storm for all of us.

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Ginger (Ani’s mom) comforting Laney – an intimate moment between two mamas. 

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WINTER PREGANCY STYLE

28th June 2016
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I have so many pregnant friends at the moment and a couple of them have asked me how to dress their bump in the winter. Looking around I think think it’s all about one thing: layering! Here are some snaps for some bump-spiration.

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A STYLE CONSCIOUS PLAY MAT

27th June 2016
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This is exactly what we have been waiting for: a beautiful foam play mat! That’s right designer and illustrator is after our own hearts by creating this beautiful premium quality, non-toxic play mat which looks like a heirloom printed rug. Finally, us mamas don’t have to sacrifice our style for our babes play areas.

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Little Nomad printed play mats are currently available through funding site Kickstarter.

 

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FAMILY ALBUM & THIS WEEK’S READING LIST

24th June 2016
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Lucie de la Falaise and with her daughter Ella and Kate Moss, photographed by Bruce Weber, 1997

Happy weekend mamas. We’re looking forward to the Opening the Drawers event on Saturday and in the afternoon Bailey is doing paint colour tests in her new apartment – how much fun!? Hope you have a lovely one. PS. At the moment I am glued to BBC watching all the details on Britex

Here are some links from around the web that caught our eye:

Breastfeeding as a trans gender dad

Awesome approach to pocket money! 

The heart breaking story behind purple butterfly stickers

Blake Lively gets real about being a mom and why Instamoms drive her mad!

Disney Princesses become new moms in sweet series of drawings

Not mama related but here is a look at the newly revamped Ritz hotel in Paris

The secrets of traveling around the world with a baby

Fun family ritual

The complex lives of babies

Good moms vs good dads

Here is the one thing that psychologists recommend for our kids

Angelina Jolie spills the beans on what her kids are up to

All about mom hair – yes it does exist

Why our kids need our time more than they need our money or to achieve

Why teaching kids handwriting in a digital world is so important

BABE, MAMA

MEET THE MAMA: GEORGIE

22nd June 2016
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Georgie lives in Johannesburg with her husband Gareth and their adorable 11 week old baby girl Arabella Isla. We caught up with Georgie to find out how life is now that she is a mama.

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What is your favourite product for your baby and why?

Arabella’s NutureOne pillow. I actually got given two at my baby shower and i have one in her pram and one in her cot. The pillows are designed to mimic the womb and were originally created for premature babies that needed to go into incubators.They provide baba with the ideal sensory environment for sleep.  Thankfully Arabella was a full-term babe but she looks so comfortable every nap and bed time!

What is the best gift that you received for Arabella and what makes it so special?

My mum crocheted Arabella beautiful pink and grey blanket for her cot and gave it to me for Mother’s Day. It’s her tradition, she has done a blanket for all the babies in my family, from my sister’s children to my cousins’. They are so beautiful and so special, it’s the kind of gift that can be kept for years and even passed down generations.

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Is there anything that you didn’t originally buy but since having a little one rushed out and got?

A Beco Gemini baby carrier. Unfortunately my poppet never took to her noonoo pie wrap so after seeing another new mum with one, followed by extensive research, I ordered a Beco off Amazon and Arabella loves it. We used to walk for miles with her in her pram but the pavements are so bad that it is so much easier having her in a carrier, not to mention so special feeling that little body snug against mine.

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Have you started any family rituals? 

One of the first things I bought for Arabella’s nursery was an LP record player. I had a whole bunch of records from when my sisters and I were little; real classics like Wendy Fine’s There’s an orchestra in my kitchen  and Des and Dawn Lindberg’s Unicorns, Spiders and Things. Gareth’s mum also had records from when he was a baby which we now have. Every evening for the hour or so before bath time we put on a record and dance together or just sing along to the music.Our current favourite is a record of the classics by the great composers, music from Swan Lake and The Nutcracker, that sort of stuff. I’m looking forward to starting new and continuing family rituals around Christmas and her birthday as she gets older.

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What is your favourite time of day with your baby?

The aforementioned hour before bath time, going into bath time and the quiet period during which I put her to sleep. I know this can be a hellish period for a lot of parents and we had that too when she was littler but now that she is a bit older its a really special time filled with smiles, engaging stares (especially between her and her daddy) and eventually a little head resting on my chest breathing heavily, fast asleep. This time also includes a feed, which despite being something that I struggled with to begin with, is now a really special time.

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Where is your favourite place to go hang out with Arabella?

Right now it’s her changing mat! As ridiculous as that sounds she absolutely loves it. She has a mobile over the mat and we have a little song for every dangley that hangs above her head, her favourite is the black and white star with little bells that jingle. The associated song is obviously twinkle twinkle little star but when her dad sings it he amends it to finish with, what a pretty girl you are. We spend hours chatting and singing with her on her mat and it’s the place that elicits the most smiles.

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What one thing we will never catch you doing as a mama? 

Many people have said it but you will never find me judging another mum. As wonderful as being a mother is, it is also the most difficult and uniquely individual experience. Find what works for you and do that and don’t judge what works for others.

What is the biggest surprise to you about having a baby?

I’m so surprised by the contrast of the experience. I recently read something that described motherhood as a “dichotomy of extremes. The highest highs and the lowest lows. Intense joy and insane frustration. Love that overwhelms you and exhaustion that overtakes you.” Those words sum up to a tee the contrast that I have felt so often.

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What do you love most about your husband being a dad?

I love the way Gareth looks at our baby; he gazes at her with a look of disbelieving adoration. His endless patience with her is also something very special.

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What one thing do you want to teach your little girl? 

There are so many things I want to teach her, the list is endless but I suppose most of it is encompassed by kindness. Not only being kind to others but to be kind to herself.

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Ps. We love these beautiful pics of Georgie, Gareth and Arabella snapped by the lovely Robyn Davie.

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MADE IN MOMMIES KITCHEN

20th June 2016
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We all know the story: wanting to give our little babes the best food possible, made from the best ingredients, still tasty but also convenient because something we just don’t have the time to peel, cook and present the food ourself. Introducing Mommies Kitchen! Bailey and I recently tried the Mommies Kitchen meals out for the twins and Francie and we absolutely loved them.

Started by two “mommies” in the “kitchen” cousins Anel and Annali, both qualified teachers. Their love for cooking, combined with their experience in teaching (and raising) children makes for the perfect combo to meticulously prepare delicious meals for babies and toddlers. Mommies Kitchen supplies healthy, nutritious, homemade baby food for babies and toddlers (6 months to 3 years).  All the recipes have been approved by a dietician and they take great care in ensuring that the meals are age appropriate and correspond with each child’s needs and preferences.

We tried a range of the meals – from the great pruees for stage 1 eaters, to the delicious meals for stage 3 eaters of toddlers. Some of our (and our babes favourites) were: Cottage Pie, Chicken a la King with Rice, beef casserole with couscous and the meatballs and spaghetti. They also offer a range of other snack options.

Ordering is super easy – all done online and you can choose between three ordering plans: 7 meals per week, 14 meals per week or the pick and choose options. The meals are then delivered to you. *Pretoria, Midrand and Johannesburg.

Head over to Mommies Kitchen for more details and to order.

 

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FAMILY ALBUM & THIS WEEK’S READING LIST

17th June 2016
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Liv Tyler and her babes – Sailor Gene and the one inside. Shot for Vogue Italia. 

Happy weekend mamas. We hope you have a lovely one filled with fun and happiness as you celebrate Father’s Day on Sunday. I am also hoping for long naps (as I write this Miss Francie Sugar decided not to nap!).

Here are some links around the web that caught our eye this week: 

25 Ways to Ask Your Kids ‘So How Was School Today?’

How to keep you relationship alive after kids

Family airport style 

Liberating! Anti-Kondo 

8 Fashion moms about the work-home balance

Want to sleep better? Do these 12 things before bed

The terrible joy of throwing away your baby’s old clothes

Baby names on the verge of extinction

Why babies in every country on Earth say ‘mama’

In Defense of Not Making Your Own Baby Food

DIARY, MAMA

MOTHERHOOD IS NOT A COMPETITION

15th June 2016
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As a mother of twins, I’ve had many people come up to me and say, “Do you know what’s harder than having twins? Having babies 16 months apart.” Or, “It’s easier to have twins than one child because twins play together.” Or “Having twins is easier than having babies two years apart because at least twins are doing the same thing at the same time.”
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At first, as a new mother with two brand new babies, my initial thoughts were, “In what way, is taking two brand new babies home easier than taking one home? In what way is breast feeding two babies easier than feeding one? In what way is putting two babies to sleep every single nap time easier than putting one baby to sleep? How is bathing two babies that can’t sit yet easier than bathing one? How is dealing with two teething babies easier than dealing with one? How is potty training two toddlers easier than potty training one?” in stead I nodded in agreement and smiled at the mama-who-has-it-harder.
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Three years on I still get those comments. However, three years years into motherhood, my reaction has now changed. Now I ask, why is there a competition of who has it the hardest? Sure, sometimes my twin girls play together for a while without needing me to dress a doll, solve a dispute, negotiate a settlement, or find the exact matching scrap piece of paper that the other one has found when I have a sickening, vague recollection that I threw it away two days ago. Sure, sometimes when we are out doing chores my girls will entertain each other and both won’t demand to sit on my lap without the other, or to be carried on my hip happily exclaiming “two babies!.” But any example I can think of a difficult day or a trying night, any other mother out there can match.
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I’ve even found myself fall into this trap. You know the familiar mom-offs: However sick your baby was, my baby was sicker. However tough your night was, my night was tougher. However long your day was, my day was longer. The bottom line is, in the hard moments, and even in the ordinary days, motherhood is hard. It’s wonderful. But it’s hard. If you have one baby, if you have two babies, gosh if you have four babies, it’s hard.
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So instead of trying to outdo each other with who has it the hardest, let’s acknowledge that the mother confiding in you might just need a hug and an understanding “I know.” Let’s listen instead of compare, and let’s support, instead of compete.
BABE, NEST

A LITTLE FRENCH NURSERY

14th June 2016
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I am a huge fan of Lauriane from the blog You May love It – she’s an art director in Paris so of course her baby boy’s nursery is super cool. The nursery is filled with fun, interesting pieces like the balloon shaped mirror and the cool found-me-down changing table. It’s clean, simple with white and raw wood… I just love it.

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