We all know radio and TV personality Bailey Schneider so we were super excited to hear that she is a fan of Kimmy & Bear and even more excited to share her meet the bump story with you – we can tell her little boy is surrounded by so much love and family.
Bailey lives with her husband, Socrates (Sox) in Cape Town, she is 22 weeks pregnant.
Is this your first pregnancy?
It is! I’ve been keeping a Pregnancy Journal with my whole experience, the funny things that have happened, the milestones and so on, so that I can give it to Baby G one day.
Are you finding out the gender of your baby?
We couldn’t wait to find out the gender and at our 12 week scan on 22 December, Baby G didn’t want to show us. Kept crossing legs or turning away. On 6 Jan, I was in hospital for a night for severe dehydration from vomiting from a migraine and when we had a scan to check that baby was OK, we were able to find out that Baby G is a little boy! So exciting!
Tell us one thing you can’t live without while pregnant and why not?
I cannot live without my Granny Goose Cuddle-up Pregnancy Pillow and visits to my Chiropractor. I have a bad back ordinarily, but with the pregnancy, I’ve been feeling the aches and pains even more.
What is your favourite beauty product while pregnant and why do you love it so much?
The full Mama Mio range, like the Tummy Rub Oil, the Boob Tube and so on. There are certain oils/creams/products you cannot use when you’re pregnant and that’s why I love this range, because it’s especially made for pregnancy, so you know you’re safe. It’s also so luxurious and a chance for me to pamper myself at home.
What is your favorite food or are you having any cravings while pregnant?
In the beginning, I couldn’t get enough fish and olives. The minute I started taking Omega vitamins, the fish craving subsided, although every now and then I feel like it. I’ve had cravings for fresh oranges, glasses of milk, the cliched pickles, popcorn, carbs and sweet things- which has been hard for me since I follow a LCHF lifestyle. However, I haven’t not had – I’ve just tried to be control of the portions. I’ve also had a weird craving for McDonalds McChicken – something I haven’t had in 4 years. I find the cravings come and go.
What preggy books or apps are you using?
I am loving the What to Expect When You’re Expecting (WTEWYE) Book (latest edition) and Baby Sense/Pregnancy Sense. I’ve also got the apps: Pregnancy+ and the WTEWYE app. I’ve downloaded Baby Centre and The Bump apps too, but I go to the other 2 first for weekly updates on Baby G’s growth.
How would you describe your pregnancy style and where do you shop for preggy clothes?
I am loving the pregnancy experience because I don’t have to hold in my tummy anymore. haha! I’m finding I’m wearing tighter dressers, which I wouldn’t have worn ordinarily, but now I am proud to show off my bump. My husband actually spoiled me with a whole bunch of Maternity clothing from MeaMama – I was so impressed with his style and choice! I have also been wearing maxi dresses that are a size bigger from Poetry, Freddy Jeans have incredible maternity jeans, Cherry Melon has lovely leggings, LABEL Collection has a beautiful Maternity section, as does Mama Meah. Cotton On has comfortable workout maternity wear. I sound like I’ve bought a lot of maternity wear, but I’ve bought a few staples and I’m mixing and matching with my ordinary clothes (well, the ones that still fit.)
What’s your exercise regime at the moment? And how has it changed with your pregnancy?
I have always done Pilates at BUC Fitness , so I’ve continued with that and my instructor, Jess, has adapted the class to a Pregnancy Pilates class. I do Preggy Pilates twice a week and on the other days I try to get in a Promenade walk of 4-5kms. I’m grateful that I have been give the all clear to exercise, and while I’m definitely not overdoing it, I always feel so much better once I have exercised.
Have you decided on a birth plan, are you going natural or having a caesar?
I have had a complication with my pregnancy. I was actually meant to go for an operation to remove a rather large Fibroid, however, I found out I was pregnant just before the operation, so we cancelled it. As a result, the Fibroid has grown thanks to the hormones, it’s caused me quite a bit of pain and I’ve been advised that if I attempt Natural Birth, I may rupture my Uterus. The safest option for me is a C-section and being safe and keeping both of us healthy is the best birthing plan for me.
In preparation for your baby what are your most over whelming thoughts/ worries/concerns?
Gosh, I’m going to be 100% honest and vulnerable here. I never realized I liked to control things so much. I have definitely learned that pregnancy and motherhood is out of your control and I’ve had to let go of certain plans or ideas. I’m still learning to surrender, to be honest. I also had a laugh with my husband the other day. We are fully aware (and also not even close to truly knowing) how life as we know it is going to change. I’ve had feelings of being beyond excited to meet our little guy – especially because we have hoped, wished and prayed for a healthy baby, to little fears of: “There’s no turning back. I’m not ready!” Another thing that I’ve worried about, and I hope it’s normal, is trying to figure out how to be a Mom and continue with my career. For 16 years I’ve been the brand “Bailey Schneider” on Radio and TV and my career has been my baby. I am an all-or-nothing type of person, so I’ve been worried about juggling both. How can I be an “All” Mom and give “all” to my career too? Again, it’s about surrendering and knowing that everything is as it should be. My husband is always my voice of reason and the reality is, we won’t know anything until our little boy is here. One day at a time. I really hope it is a normal feeling, because I’ve felt guilty for even feeling this way.
How did you tell your husband you were pregnant? And when did you break the news to friends and family?
We had been trying for a baby, from the day we got married – we had also said we would try for a year, without pressure. I’m so grateful that it only took us 7 months. The operation to remove that Fibroid was coming up and it was the one month, I wasn’t expecting to become pregnant (see what happens when I surrendered – I’m learning.) I was 4 days late, which annoyed me because I didn’t want to be on my period, whilst in hospital. I had said to my husband that if, by the end of my radio show the following day I still hadn’t got my period, I’d buy a digital pregnancy test. That evening, we had dinner and I took the test, not really expecting a positive, because I knew I had the operation the following week. Well, it was a complete surprise (the irony – from all the previous months of hope and expectation) when the test showed: Pregnant 2-3, meaning I was 4 weeks pregnant. We both burst into happy tears, we kept hugging each other, then we sort of laughed hysterically at each other like mad people. It was such an amazing moment. I had blood tests the following morning, which confirmed that I was indeed pregnant. We cancelled the operation. It was serendipity too. My Mom and Dad live in Johannesburg and my sister and BIL live in London. I always imagined that I’d have to tell them via Skype. However, that Friday, I was scheduled to fly up to Johannesburg for a friends wedding that weekend. My sister and BIL happened to also be flying in from London for a visit, so I was actually able to tell them all in person. It was incredibly special and there was loads of excitement as it’s the first baby in our immediate family.
I told my best friend Karolina the next day when we met for coffee (erm, decaf) in JHB and a few others. BUT, because I had a few scares in the first trimester and the Fibroid caused me a lot of pain, we decided to wait for the full 12 weeks and assessment. The scan was on the 22 December, and once we were given the all clear, we made a Christmas Day announcement publicly! It was incredibly special.
Dream babymoon destination?
Mauritius or somewhere local, like, the sleepy fishing town Paternoster.
What is the best pregnancy advice you have received?
Everyone keeps scaring us by telling us to sleep and enjoy watching series and movies now because you won’t be doing that for a very long time. I’ve been resting as much as possible and not feeling guilty when I have a day on the couch, even when the weather is beautiful outside. The other best advice I’ve received is to get off Google (scary place) and to choose a few close mom friends I trust and chat to them for advice. Everyone has their own opinions and ideas and it’s not that it isn’t right, it just might not be right for you. It can be very overwhelming and with the amount of knowledge available today, people tend to lean on that, instead of trusting our own maternal instincts.